Letter 24

UnknownSulpicius Severus|c. 410 AD|paulinus nola
From: Paulinus and Therasia, Nola
To: Sulpicius Severus, monk and writer
Date: ~410 AD
Context: A long and searching letter in which Paulinus gently rebukes Severus for excessive flattery, then develops extended reflections on Christian love, truth-telling, and the danger of false praise.

To our brother Severus — Paulinus and Therasia, sinners.

I still have something to say to you — though you, with the storerooms of your letters thrown wide open, receive everything and, as you yourself admit, are eager to proclaim from the rooftops whatever you hear. But if you broadcast this complaint I am about to lodge against you along with the rest of my chatter, you will be exposing your own recklessness — the very thing that prompted this letter. The end of my last letter reminded me of it: a word about love and perfection that suggested where this one should begin.

Here is my grievance, born of your excessive affection: your great love for me drags you all the way to the sin of lying. For whether I consider what you say about yourself or what you say about me — piling undeserved praise on our burdens while tearing yourself down with false self-criticism — I find exaggeration on both sides. You diminish yourself below what you are and elevate me above what I am. This is not love's work but love's error. For true love "does not rejoice in falsehood but rejoices in the truth" [1 Corinthians 13:6].

[The letter develops into one of Paulinus's most sustained meditations on the nature of Christian friendship, truth, and the proper boundaries of affection. He argues that genuine love requires honesty — that flattery, even when well-intentioned, is a form of deception that ultimately harms both the flatterer and the flattered. He draws on classical philosophy (Cicero's De Amicitia, which he quotes alongside Scripture) to argue that the true friend is one who tells you the truth about yourself, not the one who tells you what you want to hear. The letter also contains extended reflections on humility, on the danger of spiritual pride disguised as self-deprecation, and on the paradox that the truest compliment one can pay a friend is honest correction. Throughout, the tone is warm and affectionate even in its reproof — Paulinus makes clear that he loves Severus precisely enough to risk offending him with the truth. The letter closes with news of their mutual friends, descriptions of his building projects at Nola, and prayers for Severus's continued spiritual growth.]

Modern English rendering for readability. See the 19th-century translation or original Latin/Greek for scholarly use.

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