Letter 73

From: Ambrose, Bishop of Milan To: Clementianus Date: ~387 AD Context: A letter of spiritual counsel to a layman named Clementianus who had written to Ambrose about his struggles with anger and the desire for revenge against a personal enemy. Ambrose to Clementianus — greetings. You have written to me about your anger, and I respect your honesty. Most people conceal their worst impulses; you have confessed yours, and that confession is already half the cure. You have been wronged — I do not doubt it. The man who injured you acted unjustly, and your anger is a natural response to injustice. I would not tell you that your anger is entirely wrong; the Lord himself was angry at the moneychangers in the Temple (John 2:15). Anger at genuine evil is not a sin; it is a virtue. But you have moved from anger to the desire for revenge, and there you have crossed a line. Anger says: "This is wrong and it must stop." Revenge says: "I will make the wrongdoer suffer as I have suffered." The first is justice; the second is usurpation of God's role. "Vengeance is mine, says the Lord" (Romans 12:19). He did not say "Vengeance is yours if you feel strongly enough about it." The practical advice is this: do not act while the anger is fresh. Time does not make the wrong right, but it does restore your judgment. The decision made in cold blood is almost always better than the decision made in hot. Pray for your enemy. I know this sounds impossible — it nearly is. But the act of praying for someone you want to destroy is the most powerful weapon against your own worst impulses. It is very difficult to hate a man while asking God to bless him. And forgive. Not because the wrong was small — it was not. Not because the offender deserves it — he may not. But because forgiveness sets you free. The man who carries resentment is a prisoner of the one who wronged him. The man who forgives walks out of the prison. Be free, Clementianus. Forgive, and be free. Farewell.

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